Bonjour, I'm a newbie (eeek)

[EugeneOnegin]

Hey All,

Just returned to Cork for my second year of College and I've finally gotten around to joining the forums.
Hoping it's a place where I can interact with others and chat about issues which are relevant.

I'm also in the dreaded "coming-out" process. The last great hurdle which remains is to talk to my parents, it's something I'm longing to do. When I do eventually tell them, I suppose I'll feel alot more free. Right now, I haven't told the majority of my friends from back home in case it gets back to my parents before I can talk to them. I know that there will never be an opportune moment.
I just have such a great respect for my parents and kinda feel like I'd be letting them down in some way (I'm the eldest and only son in the family). I know in my heart and soul that my parents would never care, as long as I'm happy. I also know that the thought of me being gay has already crossed their minds (especially when my Mom asks me am I seeing any "girls or guys" in Cork). I think that they accept it as a possibility that I could be gay.
Over the summer I've played out scenarios in my mind of how I could approach the matter. Can anyone else relate to this/ tender any advise?

I didn't expect to write so much up there lol, this was only intended to be a quick hello! Anyways, looking forward to getting to know everyone![:-D][:-D][:-D][:-D][:-D]

[Invincible]

D'ya know that song 'Sorry seems to be the hardest word'? Well i think that 'Gay seems to be the hardest word' would be more appropriate.

I came out to my parents last summer ('06) after years of telling myself i'd never have the courage to do so. I also felt like i was letting them down or i'd be disappointing them. Thats only natural.

I have never felt so sick with dread than the evening i told them. There was the expected reactions...shock, tears etc, but also unconditional support and love. The next few days and weeks were a bit awkward too coz how do u continue as normal after such a bombshell? Anyway, since then it has been absolutely great with my parents; like nothing has changed. In fact i think we're closer, especially me and my dad.

You have no idea how liberating it is to be honest about ure sexuality with those closest to you. All of a sudden i wasn't hiding anymore. Coming out is the hardest thing i will ever do but my only regret is i didnt do it sooner.

I would never tell anyone "oh, you MUST come out" coz that is a very personal decision and i never liked others telling me the same. But from my own experience, it is something i'm so glad i've done.

Good luck EugeneOnegin (u just like the one gin eh?) and welcome to the forum! It's been such a great support for me and outlet and i've met great people off it. Who knows, u might find a 'special friend' [;-)]

[+saidin+]

check the ucc lgbt's forum at http://bb.ucc.ie and try going to the meetings on wednesday nights, they're normally great fun and help dispell the illusion of gay=different. either way, there's gays by the truck load on campus especially concentrated in Arts (ick) and Biochem (woo!). welcome to the forum anyways [:-D]

[Invincible]

there's gays by the truck load on campus especially concentrated in Arts (ick) and Biochem (woo!). welcome to the forum anyways [:-D]

Arts rules!

[Shiva]

Welcome to the party ;)
Apart from Redbulljunkie, we don't bite that much (or so I've heard [;-)])

[louislestat]

Welcome aboard! Everyone here is lovely.........sort of LOL Have fun

[admin]

Over the summer I've played out scenarios in my mind of how I could approach the matter. Can anyone else relate to this/ tender any advise?

I didn't expect to write so much up there lol, this was only intended to be a quick hello! Anyways, looking forward to getting to know everyone![:-D][:-D][:-D][:-D][:-D]

Just tell them straight out and maybe you mother first?

In the meantime, welcome to the forums! We are bound to have a meetup soon and you'll be most welcome to that.

In the meantime, enjoy the chat! [;-)]

[EugeneOnegin]

Thanks all!
Glad to be here [:-))]