Discussion in 'Life Is An Odyssey' started by falcon, Dec 10, 2009.
you forget that you only know the me on the forums..im alot different in person
Can you be in Love with someone and have an open relationship??? I really dont think you can personally.
I think if your in Love with someone then their like your other half. You cant live with out them and when their not around something just doesnt feel right until you see them again! I defintley couldnt have an open relationship. If two consenting adults want to tho then off with them....Just be safe!
I think any relationship where people are honest with each other can work. Any relationship without that honesty is doomed.
Some peoples ideas of 'open' relationships or 'faithful' relationships really make me laugh
'I'd never do that'....my fat arse......people aren't fucking blind
Hello wake up and smell the cappuccino
I hope one day I can find 'the one'. At the moment though I do find it kinda hard to remain dedicated. At 15 this dude said I was the one but that really wasn't true and I fell for it, like how stupid was I? he was kind of the reason I came out to my parents before they stopped me from seeing him and when the going got tough that was the end of us. I guess that put me off relationships, but the right person is out there.
Youth is wasted on the young!
Don't worry about "the one" just yet little one!
I dont think I ever put "soulmate" in the same category as the love of your life...
For me a soul mate can be anyone.... it can be a best friend, a relative or a Lover. Its someone who you connect 100% with.... that understands every single thing about you.... someone that gets you. someone that loves every thing you love. Now a lot of these things can be related to your partner but theres just something about knowing someone that is basically a copycat version of you. If you have a passion for science they have a passion for science if you love a certain music/Films they understand that love completley. You relationship might not be physical but still can be deeply deeply emotional.
Ive never experienced that with a friend. Experienced it with a Partner? Yes Have someone that just gets me in every way? Yes. And very happy about it But some peple can find their soulmate in the most random of people and situations. And even if you dont find a partner to grow old with your soulmate is just as good.
I can be a very jealous person anyway so no the thought of an open relationship would be my idea of hell.
That post gives me chills. But in a good way.
Most of the things on that list I held true of many of my friends at different times, without considering any of them a soulmate. I feel lucky to have felt any of those things at all.
This one gives me chills for another reason.
Like, infatuation, lust, true love... I feel like a ghost after reading that.
Not for the first time either.
Makes me second guess anything I've ever felt for anyone (...and no, just because I'm second guessing doesn't automatically mean it couldn't have been love. I second-guess EVERYTHING.)
I was kind of an early starter with the whole puberty thing. Too early (I was 7 going on 8). Mind and body completely out of sync. So that part of my mind was summarily ignored and shut down. It tried to 'wake up' again in secondary school, but I wasn't having any of that and shut it down again...it was telling me things I didn't want to be listening to at that time.
So when I was coming to the end of secondary school I started paying attention to that part of the brain again. But never acted on it.
So when I finally decided to give things a chance, I thought I had to play catch up.
And I was...foolish...to try.
The things that some of my gay pals get up to are as alien to me as a lot of what the straight pals get up to. It works for them (or I truly hope it does anyway), but different strokes for different folks.
I don't regret what I've done tho, because it helped me learn.
I saw the "Willyameetmyfriend" thing in action last night. Was glad it seemed to work out for the two in question. That approach won't work for me though...
There are those who have encouraged me to go after this person, or that person...especially lately (maybe they want to distract me from the internet or something)...for the score or whatever. While I love the fact that they were encouraging me, they forgot to check if I actually fancied the person at all.[@};-] Playing tonsil tennis might be fun, but I'd prefer to find someone to play that with where a rematch is an option.
It's rare I get that thunderbolt feeling throughout my body that just makes me feel lit up as soon as I see someone that I like. I've never had the nerve to actually let on to a person when they cause that reaction in me.
I don't think it's recognising a soul mate. I don't know whether it's love-at-first-sight. I suspect pheromones come into it...
I know technically all of the above is off-topic, but I got a rush of blood to the head (the one above my shoulders...when standing up) and couldn't help myself.
Open relationships: I never know what I'm willing to accept for sure until the opportunity presents itself and I go with my gut. Instinct says it's a no-no for me. If I'm not enough for someone that they feel the need to see someone else for something I'm not providing (emotional, physical or whatever), then that's the deathknell of the relationship sounding. Ditto for if I feel there's something lacking in the relationship.
Sex...is sex. A physical act. Gratification. If that's all there is to it though, I can provide that for myself on my own, and it's quicker to clean up. With less fallout.
Good sex, I think, is about wanting the other person to feel good. And wanting to help them feel good. And helping them feel good makes me feel good...so it's kind of a closed circuit which keeps building on itself, feeding itself, until the writhing crescendo reaches...well...in the name of decency I cannot continue. And that the feeling of it being right doesn't dissipate after....that the awkwardness won't be there afterward.
If a third party made my partner feel good, that wouldn't make me feel good....so the circuit's broken. And so is the relationship.
That's the rules for me. Everyone else makes their own for themselves.
Some rules are made to be broken...only time will tell if I ever break mine.
Id be the exact same!!!
open relationships? why not just be single?
its all a bit complicated
i suppose if its a mutual choice and its not imposed and both are honest with the people they mess around with ..... i might not be critical
as regards sexual relations
foursomes are the new threesome and im bringing the fourth [)]
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